How many people are swingers or polyamorous?

You see figures all over the media about how many people are swingers, polyamorous or have some other form of open relationship. The truth is that all the stats are just educated guesses since many people are very guarded about their relationship type and won’t be honest even if asked in complete anonymity.

From my personal experience and research I’ve found this:

  • 1 in 100 couples are active swingers or have some other form of open relationship
  • 1 in 4 couples dabble in an open relationship of some type, whether it’s swinging, polyamory, a threesome once in a while or something else.

The simple fact is that open relationships are more common than most would want to admit and more and more people are realizing every day that they don’t have to be monogamous to be in love with each other and happy as society tells them.

Advice for those that feel guilt about their fantasies

I’ve been listening to quite a few Dan Savage “Savage Love” podcasts recently and there seems to be one common theme among his callers: Many are fearful that they are freaks and their fantasies are twisted and wrong.

I’d just like to reach-out to you folks, and others like you, and say this:

You are not weird. You are not “wrong”. You are not perverted. Your fantasies are not disgusting. You are normal.

There are no unnatural sex acts. As Alfred Kinsey once said: “The only unnatural sexual act is that which you cannot perform.” I’ll take is a step further and qualify it with the words “adult” and “consenting” and phrase it as such:

The only unnatural sexual act between consenting adults is that which their bodies cannot perform. So don’t let anyone tell you that you are sick and perverted because your sexual fantasies and turn-ons don’t match theirs.

Serena Williams playing a game of BDSM Tennis?

Tennis game “Top Spin 4” publisher 2K Sports may be trying to distance itself from this commercial for their new game, but I’ll bet Serena Williams and Rileah Vanderbilt in fetish-wear fuels quite a few fantasies and sends gamers looking for cheat codes to unlock the “nude tennis” function.

Keep it simple, stupid

Two rules for an open relationship:

1. Respect your partner(s)
2. Safe sex

Everything else just overcomplicates things and sets-up the relationship(s) for hurt feelings and issues.

DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 43: We Are Back! |

The podcast has returned with your’s truly and many wonderful people.

In this episode we talked about “right” and “wrong” relationships and who you should listen to when it comes to advice about your relationships.

We also talked about kink bleeding-over in the vanilla world and some thing non-kinky people do that they don’t see as kinky but really is.

Check-it out, download it, enjoy.

DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 43: We Are Back! |