Rape fantasy vs. being raped

There is a huge difference between sharing a forced sex, “rape” fantasy and exploring it in a safe, negotiated environment and actually being raped. I’ve heard too many horror stories about how a woman has shared her “rape” fantasy with someone and that person took advantage of it in a non-consensual manner under the reasoning of “That’s what I thought you wanted.”

Do you believe a spiritual practice, like Shamanisim, and BDSM can be blended successfully?

This is a good question because I personally do not see the “spirituality of BDSM” like some others. Not saying they are wrong, but I don’t see it the same.

That said, there is definitely a space, a state of being that is reached in BDSM that some might call “spiritual”. As strictly a top I get in a space that is as emotionally cleansing as meditation, just in another way. I see how bottoms react and the state of being they achieve during a scene and the emotional response they have. To call that not being in some way spiritual for many would be irresponsible and short-sighted of me, because having witnessed it tells me it is for them.

Ask me anything about polyamory, swinging or open relationships

Demand that the employees on duty at McDonald’s be held responsible in the beating of a trans woman

After an unidentified transgender woman tried to use the bathroom at a Baltimore McDonald’s, two patrons started attacking her in full view of other customers and employees.

The April 18 assault took place at a McDonald’s location in the 6300 block of Kenwood Avenue in Rosedale, Maryland, a Baltimore suburb, according to the Baltimore County Police Department. A 14-year-old girl has been charged as a juvenile in connection with the assault, charges are still pending against an 18-year-old woman. “The incident remains under investigation and the State’s Attorney’s Office is reviewing the case,” added investigators.

Demand that the employees on duty at McDonald’s be held responsible in the beating of a trans woman.