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What’s the swingingest city in Texas? We’re about to find out

By Lucius Scribbens on July 8th, 2010

CouplesTouch.com is sponsoring four off-premise swinger parties presented by the Texas Lifestyle Party Group, Euphoria to see which city in Texas is the swiningest of them all.

Off-premise parties are those where couples have to go somewhere besides the club throwing the party to actually engage in sexual activity, such as back to their homes or a hotel room.

For information about sexy adult parties in Utah, check-out the “Events” link on the Utah Uncensored website

Here is the press release from CouplesTouch.com:

HOUSTON, Jul 07, 2010  – Texans will learn next month which of the four largest cities in the state is the most swinging (as in couples who like to exchange partners for intimate fun).

CouplesTouch.com, a leading website that caters to people in the “swinging lifestyle,” is sponsoring four simultaneous “Swinger City of the Year 2010″ parties in Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio on August 7th. CouplesTouch.com is a division of Rick’s Cabaret International, Inc., (RICK 7.62, -0.10, -1.30%) , best known as the publicly traded operator of upscale gentlemen’s clubs nationwide.

The August 7th parties will be presented by the Texas Lifestyle Party Group, Euphoria. For information on the venue for each party visit: the Euphoria4Life.com website (euphoria4life.com/SwingersEventPage.html).

“The swinging lifestyle offers couples and singles alike a way to add spice and spontaneity into their relationships; and it opens new opportunities to explore fantasies while engaging in recreational sensual activities,” said Wendi Dodson of CouplesTouch. “It’s no wonder that swinging has a growing popularity in Texas and across the country.”

The Swinger City of the Year will be chosen based on the largest number of people attending one of the parties, which will be held at private clubs in each city. The parties are BYOB, with DJs, dancing, private party rooms, dance poles, dance cages, “and lots of sexy, sexy fun,” according to Euphoria. The entrance fee at each party is $60 per couple, which will also entitle each couple to door prizes and a free three-month membership in couplestouch.com.

About CouplesTouch.com: CouplesTouch.com offers a safe environment for couples in the “swingers” lifestyle to meet others who are likeminded. Swingers from all over the country meet to find locals in their area. CouplesTouch is a division of Rick’s Cabaret International, Inc. (RICK 7.62, -0.10, -1.30%) , home to upscale adult nightclubs serving primarily businessmen and professionals that offer live entertainment, dining and bar operations. Nightclubs in New York City, Miami, Dallas, Philadelphia, New Orleans, Charlotte, Houston, Minneapolis and other cities operate under the names “Rick’s Cabaret,” “XTC,” “Club Onyx” and “Tootsie’s Cabaret”. Sexual contact is not permitted at these locations. In addition to CouplesTouch.com, Rick’s Cabaret also operates a media division, ED Publications, and owns a network of online adult auction sites under the flagship URL naughtybids.com. Rick’s Cabaret common stock is traded on NASDAQ under the symbol RICK. For further information visit ricksinvestor.com or contact ir@ricks.com.

SOURCE: Rick’s Cabaret International, Inc.

CouplesTouch.com

Wendi Dodson, 281-901-0418 (Cell)

wendi@couplestouch.com

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Your Help Needed! «Not Your Mothers Playground

By Lucius Scribbens on July 5th, 2010

From my friend Samantha over at Not Your Mothers Playground:

Hey all,

I’ve been on holiday for a while, but now I’m back in full force, looking for your help. This week I’m working on my publishing proposal. What I want to include is why my book “Not Your Mother’s Playground: A Guide to Open Relationship for Modern Folk” is going to be relevant. Do you want to read it? Do you like the angle of a guide book with personal stories included? (It’s really a more detailed version of this blog, in case you’re wondering.)

If you have anything positive that I can include in my proposal, even if it’s just a “Can’t wait to read it!”, please leave it in the comments on this post.

Thanks so much!

Samantha

via Your Help Needed! «Not Your Mothers Playground.

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Why are therapists so down on polyamory and swinging?

By Lucius Scribbens on June 30th, 2010

There is a very small number therapists who are versed in relationships other than heterosexual monogamous ones.  Why are they so down on them? Dr. David J. Ley, Ph.D. feels that it’s because less than a third of therapists ever receive sexuality education as part of their degree path, and because of this they regard with sceptism any relationship that doesn’t model their own, or at least their own concept of what an ideal relationship (for them mostly) would be like.

Dr. Ley comments:

Multiple studies conducted over the past few decades show that therapists and the mental health field in general have negative and judgmental views of any marriages that are not centered around an assumption of monogamy. When asked, such therapists predict failure for said relationships, and automatically attribute the desire and motivation for nonmonogamy to a history of pathology, typically sexual abuse. People who approach therapists and are involved in swinging, polyamory or open marriages are most often met with incredulity and scorn.

He goes on to say:

Fewer than a third of medical schools provide training in human sexuality. What consistent training there is in sexuality is typically only focused on the negative aspects, and pathology. So, what does that mean for the therapists? It means they are reacting based upon their own subjective experiences and values. “Would I do that? Could I do that?” If the answer is yes, then the patient’s behavior is normal and healthy. If the answer is no, then patient is abnormal and unhealthy.

Read the rest of this short article at Psychology Today: Why are therapists down on alternative sex? | Psychology Today.

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Nadine Thornhill gives some great advice to someone thinking about polyamory

By Lucius Scribbens on June 30th, 2010

Couple talkingIn her column on Apt613.ca Nadine Thornhill gives some of what I think is great advice to someone thinking about a polyamorous relationship.  It’s always refreshing to see a positive look at open relationships on the World Wide Web since usually the landscape seems so littered with uber-conservative groups demeaning anything opposite of their particular brand of relationship and sexuality through posting and reposting the same tired articles written by someone else.  Of course, that saves having to think for themselves…

Here is what Nadine had to say:

Dear Dirty Laundress,

What’s your take on polyamory? Have you seen it work? Is it a pipe dream?

The More The Merrier

Polyamory is one form of non-monogamy. In her book, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, Tristan Taormino defines polyarmory as, “The practice of maintaining multiple, significant, intimate relationships simultaneously.” Bear in mind this is one broad definition. The specific characteristics of polyamory are as diverse as the people involved.

As for my personal take, I think that polyamory is as valid a relationship construct as any other. I have seen it work. I’ve also seen it fail. But if statistics on marriage are to be believed, monogamy also fails at least as often as it’s successful. Speaking strictly anecdotally, poly relationship seem to work best when the people involved are honest with themselves and their partners about what they want and need. Negotiating and respecting clear boundaries seems imperative for a polyamorous relationship to thrive, as is open communication.

If monogamous relationships are slightly more “successful”, I suspect it’s because twosomes have almost absolute social support on an institutional level. Everything from our tax structure to our frozen entrées validate a two-lovers-at-a-time kind of relationship. Meanwhile, non-monogamy is stigmatized. It’s weird. We accept plurality in love for our parents, our siblings, our children and our friends, but for some reason if love for a partner is not exclusive it’s often regarded as invalid or worse, immoral. As such, some people who find themselves attracted to, perhaps in love with, someone other than their chosen partner will repress that desire. Or worse, they will indulge the desire but without their partner’s knowledge or consent.

I believe that love, desire and sexual expression are expansive. If you so choose, you can make room for more than one lover in your life. Do it with honesty and integrity. You might make mistakes. You might fuck it up entirely and have to try again. But this is true of all relationships, no matter how many people are involved.

If you’re intrigued by polyamory or other forms of non-monogamy, TMTM, I suggest your start with some research. Taormino’s book on non-monogamy is one the best I’ve read. Other resources include, The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton. Also, there are polyamory discussion groups around the city that welcome newcomers regardless of their relationship status.

Read the original column here: Dirty Laundry: Hair-y situation and polyamory? | Apartment613.

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