Tucker Media is currently casting for a reality show about swingers. There will be no nudity or sexual acts as the show will be on mainstream cable and not a pay channel. They are looking for people that are happily living in ethical, non-monogamous relationships who want to tell others how it works and why they believe swinging works for them.

I will not be participating, however I said I would pass along the information for anyone else who is interested in sharing their story and experiences with America and beyond.

Below is the information that was sent to me by Tucker Media last week:

ARE YOU A SWINGER? Do you or do you know someone who lives a life of sexual adventure? Do you lead a rather normal or average life as far as the public is concerned – and swing behind closed doors? Do you think that America has it all wrong and needs to know the truth about your fantastic lifestyle? A national cable network needs you for a new series to help set the record straight!

REQUIREMENTS:

- Must live in the United States or U.S. Territories.

- Must be a swinger with a swinging spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend or partner.

- Must be between the ages of 18 – 45.

- The more people involved, the better your odds. We want to tell your story and hear from your swinging community.

DATES & COMPENSATION:

Shooting begins in late April 2012; production dates TBA. Must be open or at minimum flexible with shooting schedule. It’s okay if you work a daytime job, our production will also offer flexibility and accommodate! Compensation provided for approved talent.

TO SUBMIT:

All interested couples should respond to this casting call by email, Attn: Elle Tucker, Casting Director, Tucker Media at elle@tuckermedia.org. Please include first names only, a general location (county/city and state), and a short description of who you are and what you do. Understanding that privacy is an issue, please submit any questions along with contact information for further information about how we can help keep various aspects of your life confidential during filming. Submissions also MUST INCLUDE a contact email address and/or phone number. A member of the casting team will respond to all submissions in a timely manner. To help expedite a response, please only respond if you meet the required swinger criteria, in addition to having provided all of the contact information above. Applicants may also provide a photograph (optional). Preference will be given to swingers who are part of swinging group(s) that may also have interest participating.

I came across this comment on a YouTube video by WOIP, War on Illegal Pornography, in response to a Groupon offer for discount tours of The Armory in San Francisco.

Are you saying everyone will definitely masturbate at one point in their lives? I know people who never have. They tend to be girls; and the girls who have masturbated usually were pressured by their boyfriends.

It almost blows my mind that someone thinks like this.

No wait. It doesn’t.

Ms. Dawn Hawkins also needs to learn the difference between consensual sexual play and rape. Claiming to be protecting women from rape while not knowing or being able to identify the difference between consensual bondage, discipline, spankings, humiliation play, group sex, public sex, etc. and rape is simply an insult to survivors and victims of rape, sexual abuse and violence.

It troubles me that people feel I am immoral for my relationship preference and who or how many people I’ve had sex with or for the type of sexual play I prefer. Yet, they don’t question the morality of those on Wall Street and CEO’s (like Mitt Romney) who slash jobs, destroying the lives of thousands of Americans all in the pursuit of increasing profits for the shareholders and increased bonuses for themselves, just because they are thumping on a Bible at the same time.

It seems to me that they are the immoral ones.

With the current political climate of the GOP trying hard as they may to eliminate women’s rights, and slut shaming any woman who stands-up against them, I felt this quote by Erica Jong is most appropriate and sums-up very well the war on women that these arrogant, self-righteous and insecure men:

“The Virgin Mary is a sanitized version of the Mother Goddess – sanitized and fragmented. She is Woman devoid of her sexuality, Woman giving birth without human intercourse, Woman as unbroken hymen, the child-woman, the ideal of the “female eunuch” which Christianity has imposed upon one-half of the human species as the price of their very survival upon this earth… Christianity claims to honor the woman as mother but does not acknowledge her power to give life. Thus Woman is doomed to live in a double bind which is at once psychological and physical: she is damned for doing the very thing that keeps the race alive. Man, for his part, is damned for partaking of that guilty sexuality, and doomed to wander the world turning virgins into whores, then cursing his fate in having no true mate to love.”

I’m sure this is going to be an ongoing theme with this blog, so I’ve even given it it’s own category.

This is from was an article called “Does Abstinence Turn Men On?” that came across one of my saved Google searches. Don’t ask me why, either because it has nothing to do with my search  terms. This quote is by Tiy-E Muhammad, who bills himself as “Professor of Psychology, Consultant Services for Sex Therapy, Family Therapy, Author, and Relationship Therapy”. This is one of the shittiest things I’ve ever heard a “professional” say:

Most men don’t care about whether the sex is good. We’re just concerned about the climax and waiting is okay with us.

I have to disagree, just from the shear number of married-and-wanting-to-cheat men that contact couples on swinger websites. It’s always the same old, worn-out story: “I love my life but she doesn’t like the sex I do and she won’t even entertain it so I’m looking for someone who will.” There are many men who love their wife, but their wife bought into Dr. Tiy-E Muhammad’s thinking and don’t think they need to bring anything to the table except their vagina. It may be what Dr. Tie-E’s readers want to hear, but it’s really shitty advice and that kind of thinking is the road to infidelity for your partner.

Listen: Men care. Women care. Neither wants bad, lackluster or boring sex. Just having a cock or a cunt is not enough to satisfy your partner. Everyone wants their fantasies to be fulfilled, or at least entertained by their partner. And if you are entering into a monogamous relationship where you will be the only person your partner will have sex with from this moment on, you better be willing to be the lover they want, or at least try to be.