So now that Kody Brown and his four wives have retained well-known liberal and civil rights attorney Jonathan Turley to sue the State of Utah, challenging the anti-polygamy laws here, state attorneys want the case dismissed because they suddenly aren’t prosecuting Kody Brown. They feel that  since they are not currently prosecuting the Brown’s, the Brown’s should not be challenging Utah’s laws against plural relationships (and bringing national attention to Utah on a subject that Utah doesn’t want to be in the spotlight for).

Well that is their argument at least. I think the fly in the ointment is that they haven’t pressed charges “yet”, the Lehi Police Department have not ceased their investigation of the Brown’s and the Utah County Attorney’s office has not said that they will not prosecute.

Now I have to hand it to Utah Attorney General Mark Shurtleff and his crew for leaving polygamists alone unless there are cases of child abuse, welfare fraud, domestic abuse, etc. But, Lehi City’s investigation and promise of pending charges against Cody and his family have driven them from a comfortable, custom-built home where they were all under one roof to Las Vegas, NV where they are living in three separate homes.

Also, the issue of the laws used to prosecute polygamists – bigamy, adultery, fornication and sodomy –  are still on the books and can be used to prosecute a lot of people, including polyamorists, swingers, gays (which the sodomy law between consenting adults is really about), single heterosexual people and couples that have a threesomes, etc.

Here’s what I think should be stricken from Utah Code:

Utah Code 76-7-101. Bigamy – Defense.

(1) A person is guilty of bigamy when, knowing he has a husband or wife or knowing the other person has a husband or wife, the person purports to marry another person or cohabits with another person.
(2) Bigamy is a felony of the third degree.

I’d like to see the whole of section 101 stricken, but I doubt it will. The least they can do is change the law to someone is guilty of bigamy if they actually marry more than one person, and get rid of that whole “purports” and “cohabits” part. This law right here puts any household with more than two non-family adults in jeopardy of being prosecuted if the State so wishes.

Utah Code 76-7-103. Adultery.

(1) A married person commits adultery when he voluntarily has sexual intercourse with a person other than his spouse.
(2) Adultery is a class B misdemeanor. 

Adultery needs to be stricken from the law completely. Not only are polyamorists and swingers guilty of this and could be prosecuted if the State wished to (I’ll lump couple’s who have the occasional threesome with swingers), but cheating happens in around 6 out of 10 marriages, whether discovered or not (and statistically probably around 40% of our lawmakers cheat on their spouse). It’s a law that is just plain outdated and unneeded. The AG says: “We never prosecute for adultery anyway.” Well than good. Get it off the books. Save some paper.

Utah Code 76-7-104. Fornication.

(1) Any unmarried person who shall voluntarily engage in sexual intercourse with another is guilty of fornication.
(2) Fornication is a class B misdemeanor.

Yes, in Utah, sex between people who are not married, and married to each other at that, is a Class B misdemeanor and is punishable by a fine and/or up to 6 months in jail,or both. That seems a bit harsh and outdated doesn’t it? With 7 out of 10 teenagers  having sex before they graduate high school, and almost all college kids and single adults having sex without being married, this law seems just plain silly.

76-5-403. Sodomy — Forcible sodomy.

(1) A person commits sodomy when the actor engages in any sexual act with a person who is 14 years of age or older involving the genitals of one person and mouth or anus of another person, regardless of the sex of either participant.
(2) A person commits forcible sodomy when the actor commits sodomy upon another without the other’s consent.
(3) Sodomy is a class B misdemeanor.
(4) Forcible sodomy is a felony of the first degree

How about we drop the consensual oral and anal sex thing and stick with just the Forcible sodomy part? Look, almost everyone does oral on their partner and many have consensual anal sex. People should not fear prosecution if the Attorney General’s office got a bug up their butt (in which case the bug would also be charged with sodomy). Besides, I’m sure every member of the Utah Legislature love’s their lover going down on them. But, when it happens our lawmakers are breaking the very laws they make. Every cop whose partner goes down on them is breaking the very laws they are sworn to uphold. This is a covert law particularly for gays, also.

So lets get these stupid sex laws aimed at polygamists and gays off the books and let consenting adults structure their relationships in any way they see fit without the fear of prosecution or having their children taken away from them. Then if the State wants to go after polygamists than let them do so for real crimes wherein people are harmed physically, emotionally and financially, such as: sex with minors, domestic abuse, welfare fraud, etc.

You see figures all over the media about how many people are swingers, polyamorous or have some other form of open relationship. The truth is that all the stats are just educated guesses since many people are very guarded about their relationship type and won’t be honest even if asked in complete anonymity.

From my personal experience and research I’ve found this:

• 1 in 100 couples are active swingers or have some other form of open relationship
• 1 in 4 couples dabble in an open relationship of some type, whether it’s swinging, polyamory, a threesome once in a while or something else.

The simple fact is that open relationships are more common than most would want to admit and more and more people are realizing every day that they don’t have to be monogamous to be in love with each other and happy as society tells them.

Two rules for an open relationship:

1. Respect your partner(s)
2. Safe sex

Everything else just overcomplicates things and sets-up the relationship(s) for hurt feelings and issues.

It always amazes me that men will say things over the Internet to women in swinger, polyamorous, kink and other alternative and open relationships that they would never say to them in person if they were trying to pick them up.  I would love just once to be able to ask them: “Would saying that to a woman at a night club work?”

Here are some cut and pasted lines from emails sent by men on various dating and kink sites to women that I know.  All are real.  Only the names have been changed to protect the innocent women and the stupid men.

Hi. do you want to just fuck? that’s what we are here for right?

Are you kinky enough to like having your ass fucked? if not wanna learn?

How r u doing sexy I would love to get to no u maybe have fun wanna text or chat.

Do you want to practice making babies?

You will tell me more about yourself.

i like profile i not very good ask for friendship. talk to you sometime i will became your friend an fuck

I am all those things you said I should message you if I am, plus I have the best dick around. Too bad I can’t see your boobs would love to cum on them.

I’ll be in town for a couple of nights, Jan 12 and 13. I’d love to have some fun while I’m in town – intersted in a nasty play session?  Have you been trained and used as a throatfuck slut? It is your best cumhole..  Hope to hear from you, and Merry Christmas!

I like your pictures, and you are very intriguing!! I was seeing what you are looking for exactly? Do you have yahoo messenger or an easier way to chat? Are you into younger men? And do you meet other people for play? If so when can you meet? I’ll wear a condom.

Hey… wanna meet? can we go to your house?

I am curious as to why you have no Master?

how is it going I am new here, but have been dominant minded for years. I am looking for someone to let me dominate them and let me see where it goes. I respect boundaries and am completely open minded. I would rather not meet in public. I look forward to hearing from you.

hey , how are you? wanna fuck?

Wow! You have some great pix. I’d love to shoot you sometime. Your beautiful. You need some pixs of your cunt, especially after I’ve drilled and beaten you for an hour or so.

I don’t mean to be rude but u are really pretty and I have this woman friend who wants to have a 3some?

I’d love to meet. Are you interested? If you are, show up at my place gagged. You won’t need to talk.

You’re not polyamorous. No one is. You just haven’t found the right Man/Master to beat the selfish brat out of you. Lets meet and I’ll show You what a real Master is.

Do you have any you’d like to add? If so, please comment below.

Contrary to popular belief there are no signs or signals that swingers use to attract other swingers. But it still seems that some people are always looking for a way to find-out if a friend, neighbor or coworker is a swinger.

The idea that there are secret swinger symbols also supports the commonly held belief that because a swinger will have sex with someone besides their spouse that they’ll have sex with whoever just comes along, when in fact swingers are just as picky as anyone else in society about who they are attracted to and who they will get naked with. Just like the joke: “Yes I’m polyamorous. No I won’t have sex with you.” the same can be said for swingers.

Still, here are some of the popular urban legends that I’ve heard:

• Pineapple placed upside down in a shopping cart
• A woman wears an anklet on her right leg
• White landscaping rocks in someone’s front yard
• Wearing a thumb ring
• Wearing a toe ring
• Switching the wedding ring to the right hand
• Yin-Yang tattoo
• A bracelet worn on the left ankle
• Pampas grass in the front yard garden
• Pink or purple decorations in the front yard

Are there any that you’ve heard of? Add them in the comments section below.