Advice for those that feel guilt about their fantasies

I’ve been listening to quite a few Dan Savage “Savage Love” podcasts recently and there seems to be one common theme among his callers: Many are fearful that they are freaks and their fantasies are twisted and wrong.

I’d just like to reach-out to you folks, and others like you, and say this:

You are not weird. You are not “wrong”. You are not perverted. Your fantasies are not disgusting. You are normal.

There are no unnatural sex acts. As Alfred Kinsey once said: “The only unnatural sexual act is that which you cannot perform.” I’ll take is a step further and qualify it with the words “adult” and “consenting” and phrase it as such:

The only unnatural sexual act between consenting adults is that which their bodies cannot perform. So don’t let anyone tell you that you are sick and perverted because your sexual fantasies and turn-ons don’t match theirs.

  • There are plenty of sex acts that aren’t really “natural”… but isn’t that the thrill of doing them? 😉