What’s your best advice to get around and properly deal with jealousy when in a polyamorous relationship?

From Formspring:

What’s your best advice to get around and properly deal with jealousy when in a polyamorous relationship?

Work on yourself.  A competent and self-confident person rarely feels jealousy in any situation.  Remember that jealous is really just neurotic insecurity. It’s the fear that you aren’t “enough” for your partner and they will prefer someone else over yourself.  Whether this is good enough, sexy enough, thin enough, big enough boobs, big enough cock, kinky enough, etc.  What it all comes down to is it’s your issue(s), not your partner’s.

Remember that your partner is with you because they want to be, not because they have to be.  You’re holding the door open for them to leave, yet they return.  Keep in mind that you offer something to your partner, fulfill something in them, that nobody else does.  That there is not another you in this world and therefore you are special to your partner(s) in a manner that no one else in their life is.

You have to ask yourself what it is that’s really bothering you and why it bothers you.   To get to the bottom of it, ask yourself what is bothering you. Then ask yourself why that bothers you.  Then ask yourself why that bothers you, and so on until you get to the real root of the issue.  Many times what the issue appears to be on the surface is not what it really is, it’s just a disguise that jealousy wears.

Ask me anything about polyamory, swinging or open relationships