Defining Compersion

“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own…” ~ Robert Heinlein

Today I came across Anita Wagner’s new blog post about about the etymology of the word “compersion” and it got me thinking I’d never really looked into it myself.  Anita came-up with some good ideas as well as referencing Franklin Veaux’s definition.

CompersionBut I found something different:

According to the Online Etymology Dictionary, “Comper” is from the Middle French word “Compeer” meaning “to be equal of “, and “-ion”, which can mean “a state or condition”.

The state or condition of being equal to each other.

To me this means feeling a state of equality between your partner and yourself.  The the joy you feel for your partner when they have entered a new relationship is the same as you would feel for yourself if it were you starting an exciting, new relationship.

It could also mean being in a state of equality between all three or more partners, that no one person (or their feelings) is any more or any less important than another.

There are many angles to look at here and I think this is going to be an ongoing topic here.