Perceptions of Polygamy

It’s amazing the number of “experts” there are on polygamy. The new TLC series “Sister Wives” has brought them out in droves. Here’s my thoughts on a few of them.

This Internet tabloid article about TLC’s Sister Wives and the comments of their “expert” on polygamy deserve a response.  The “expert” is 77-year old John Llewellyn, a former Salt Lake County Sheriff deputy and polygamist (and from his comments a junior misogynist) himself. Here’s what he has to say:

In 1994 all of my wives left me except for one. I’m now married monogamously and I can tell you life is a lot more smooth. It’s not easy being married to more than one woman, especially if they’ve got any spunk or spirit to them. You’re constantly having to reassure them that they are loved.

Well, if not just one but all your wives leave you I’d have to believe it has more to do with you than the situation.  Comments like “It’s not easy being married to more than one woman, especially if they’ve got any spunk to them” shows your beliefs about women; that they should be reverent and submissive.  If they were a secure person they wouldn’t need constant reassurance. Being told is one thing, having to constantly be reassured is another issue altogether.

It’s a hard life to live, I’d say you’re better off having a mistress than plural wives.

Wow, how a person who promotes cheating over honest, consensual plural relationships can have any credibility as an “expert” is beyond me.

… jealousy is a huge factor.

And it isn’t in monogamist relationships? I know women that won’t even let their husband read Playboy. I know men that record the mileage on their wife’s car everyday and know exactly how far it is to everywhere their wife says they are going that day – and there aren’t even other people in the picture with these couples, it’s just the fear that there could be. We won’t even go into all the “crimes of passion” where one person kills another for cheating on them. That rarely if ever happens in a polygamist or polyamorous situation.

There isn’t a plural family that didn’t have a lot of internal domestic problems; jealousy is a huge factor. It’s all about power, money, sex and ego. A man wouldn’t be normal if his ego wasn’t inflated by having multiple wives. A lot of polygamist men are narcissists and that’s what appears to be Kody’s motivation.

Isn’t a plural family that doesn’t have a lot of internal domestic problems, eh? Given that over 50% of monogamous marriages fail I’d say there is plenty of domestic problems and strife there, also.  I’ve always held that you can’t truly see inside someone else’s relationship. You only see what they want you to see.

Power? Money? Sex? Ego? Narcissism? I’d say most men are predisposed to those. Everything in a man’s life, from the moment he’s born is about being the most powerful, the richest and conquering the most women. It’s rare the man that overcomes these negative mannerisms.  Again, these are not the characteristics of a man in plural relationships, these are characteristics of most men. In fact the past couple boyfriends of my oldest daughter are all of these and insanely jealous, also.

New York family attorney Vikki Ziegler goes on to say:

Polygamy is rarely prosecuted unless children are being harmed, but clearly polygamy is a crime and it’s being exploited. It’s a risky move for TLC to air this show knowing he is committing a crime, because the US Supreme court sees it as a crime.

In Utah so is sex between any unmarried people (Utah Code 76-7-104: Fornication) and adultery (Utah Code 76-7-103), however these are rarely prosecuted unless a jilted spouse brings them up in a divorce case. Hell, if they were 80% of Utahans have or currently are breaking the law.

Constitutional law expert and law professor Jonathan Turley has taken-on the Brown’s case.  The State of Utah has long known of the Browns, but has never investigated before now. In fact, Christine has been an intermediary for polygamist matters with the State Attorney General’s Office. Between not investigating them before and the fact that Utah doesn’t enforce some other “offenses against the family” makes this a case of “selective prosecution”, which is of itself illegal in the United States.

I’m sure I’ll have more to say as more “experts” come out of the woodwork. Geraldo Rivera is the next one.