Secret swinger signs and symbols

Pampas Grass in front of homeContrary to popular belief there are no signs or signals that swingers use to attract other swingers. But it still seems that some people are always looking for a way to find-out if a friend, neighbor or coworker is a swinger.

The idea that there are secret swinger symbols also supports the commonly held belief that because a swinger will have sex with someone besides their spouse that they’ll have sex with whoever just comes along, when in fact swingers are just as picky as anyone else in society about who they are attracted to and who they will get naked with. Just like the joke: “Yes I’m polyamorous. No I won’t have sex with you.” the same can be said for swingers: “Yes I’m a swinger. No I won’t have sex with you.”

Still, here are some of the popular urban legends that I’ve heard:

  • Pineapple placed upside down in a shopping cart
  • A pineapple door knocker
  • A woman wears an anklet on her right leg
  • A woman wears an anklet on her left leg
  • White landscaping rocks in someone’s front yard
  • Wearing a thumb ring
  • Wearing a toe ring
  • A man or woman wearing a red ball cap
  • Switching the wedding ring to the right hand
  • Yin-Yang tattoo
  • Pampas grass in the front yard garden
  • Pink or purple decorations in the front yard
  • A fire pit in the yard
  • A hot tub in the yard

Are there any that you’ve heard of? Add them in the comments section below.

  • Well there SHOULD be some signs, shouldn’t there? Maybe I should ad some purple pampas grass to the front yard and see who comes a-knockin?

  • Kevin

    The woman wears a silk scarf tied around her neck.

  • Sfcuties

    > Yin-Yang tattoo

    “Lifestyle lounge” has a logo that looks a whole lot like the “Ying Yang”, and they do have temporary tattoos with that logo. We’ve worn them to events.

    So this could be true, in a weird way.

  • k k

    adirondack chairs in the front yard LOL

  • Hmmlomsld

    Me and my husband are new at this. Can someone tell us what are real signs? We don’t want to offend anyone.

  • There really aren’t any. I’ve always held that unless you see someone at a known swinger’s party having sex with people besides their spouse, don’t assume they are swingers. 

  • Wouldn’t you get splinters?

  • Log2000

    When talking to someone, couple etc… Toss in the phrase “Vanilla” to discribe something. Most people dont use this except swingers in discribing non swingers.

  • Electricmommy

    overhead garage door open to indicate a “swap” party in on.

  • Joe_sk1

    Ankle bracelet with H W, SLUT or BBC are signs for sure. Wife wears SLUT /HW and they work

  • Kimmy

    Just found nice swinger Black tungsten ring set from amazon, check it out. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00EDFB2SW
    afortable price. for only $39.99

  • anon

    yingyang= likes black cock.
    leaving single bathroom door unlocked usually means dtf
    all I kno didn’t learn much but ankle bracelets in general arnt swinger exclusive sry

  • Jo

    Sending the kids to boarding school,

  • Tim

    Wearing a ring tied to the shoe, especially at the gym

  • drkato

    The black ring on your right ring finger is the only known sign there is.

  • Swing23

    I’ve also heard that having star on the front of your house is a sign

  • Horn dogs

    Only people who will come knocking is the HOA wondering why you planted an absurd amount of purple grass.

  • LS Couple

    Having been in the Lifestyle for three years, I can confirm the following: (1) Asking another couple if they are friends of “Ellis” (which refers to “L”ife “S”tyle); (2) a woman having a tattoo or jewelry of the “Ace of Spades” (which designates that she is into cuckoldry with a black man); and (3) using the term “vanilla” to refer to those outside of the lifestyle.

  • Richard Gross

    I have seen ankle braclets that say I love cock lol I heart rooster

  • Joe Bee

    HANKIE CODE : lack: Heavy S&M (Indicates the wearer’s interest in hardcore S&M play, especially whipping.)

    Red: Fisting

    Dark Red: Two-handed Anal fisting

    Brick Red: Blood play

    Teal: Cock and ball torture

    Dark blue: Anal sex

    Light blue: Oral sex

    Medium Blue: Uniform fetish

    Yellow: Watersports

    Light Yellow: Spitting

    Beige: Anal-oral sex, Anilingus

    Brown: Scat

    Burnt Umber: Extreme sex
    Joie Bee

  • Jeff

    We should start a sign, I like the black thumb ring, you can where two rings if you are bi. thoughts?

  • SantaFeUnicorn

    Be careful with this one – others use the terms lifestyle and vanilla, including all sorts of kinksters and fetishists – never know what you’ll end up with :^D

  • Eli “Twistedcplmt” Marie

    I see the Q in a Spade symbol for Queen of Spades. How about, as swingers, we use SW in a Club symbol for Swinger’s Club. Start it here in this thread and spread the idea.