Comments on: Polyamory, swinging, kink and employment

By: Sadie

Sadie — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 00:38:30 +0000

I didn’t know the whole backstory about TBK. That’s pretty ludicrous, isn’t it?

But I agree with Jonathan, we are headed towards a more open and tolerant mindset, albeit slowly. I consider myself lucky that I can be pretty out about who I am in most areas of my life, including at work. But many can’t because people can be so damned judgmental about how others spend their time.

Sorry about losing your part time job. My husband has considered dating women in his workplace and I always tell him something a friend says to me – “don’t shit where you eat” It only get’s ya in trouble

xo~Sadie

By: Lucius Scribbens

Lucius Scribbens — Thu, 13 May 2010 15:54:12 +0000

I was reminded of this quote from Dr. Seuss:

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

By: just me

just me — Sat, 08 May 2010 07:53:43 +0000

I was so saddened to see that happen to TBK. But it was a wake up call for me to be even more vigilant.

By: Jonathan Eunice

Jonathan Eunice — Wed, 05 May 2010 18:14:06 +0000

I recently attended an event where several executives of financial institutions discussed that they (i) forbid the use of social sites and networks at work (eg, Facebook, Twitter, etc), but also (ii) require access to your Facebook and other social accounts so that they can be scoured, both as a condition of getting employment and as a condition of keeping employment. They seemed happy with and proud of these intrusions into their employees’ personal lives and conduct.

The good news for those of, um, less conservative lifestyle choices, is that social norms and expectations are, in the grand scheme of things, heading toward openness. Radical openness, actually. Just look to the kids. But it takes time…too much time for The Beautiful Kind.

By: TheCatzMeow

TheCatzMeow — Wed, 05 May 2010 16:58:40 +0000

While working for GP in Oregon I was required to sign a morality clause. Not only was my conduct monitored at work but outside of work.

Thus far my employer here, while being owned by a very LDS man, he has let me be myself and support my community. I have run many a “kinky” jobs through our little print shop in Kaysville. I feel very fortunate for this because I realize that not many have the freedom to express themselves not only in their work but in their daily life.

I have intimate friends that work for various government entities that if their open marriage/polyamory/kink was made known they would be fired, but yet if they were to claim to be gay or lesbian, they could not lose their job. Funny how that works… kind of a double standard in that respect from my point of view. (the couple that I am in an open relationship with, he is straight & she is bisexual) So yes if their personal private life was made known to their employers… they would both be unemployed.

I personally don’t get it, but at the same time I feel and know I am fortunate to be in the position I am in.