Tiger, just shut up

Tiger woods delivered his public apology today.  It was nice.  It was sincere.  But it was stupid that he even had to do it.

Tiger hasn’t done anything at least half of his fans haven’t done, are doing or will do.  He hasn’t done anything that at least half of America hasn’t done, are doing or will do.  He hasn’t done anything at least half of the journalists sensationalizing this story haven’t done, are doing or will do.  He hasn’t done anything at last half of the decision makers at his sponsors who’ve dropped him haven’t done, aren’t doing or will do.  He hasn’t done anything that at least half of his fellow professional golfers he competes against haven’t done, aren’t doing or will do.

They just haven’t been caught or are as in the spotlight like Tiger is.

The fact is that many of the very people judging him (fans, sponsors, journalists, other players) are probably as guilty as he is.

The real story here is that he was messing around and still loves his wife very much.  That the relationship he had with the other women in no way lessened his feelings for his wife.  The same held true for Gov. Mark Sanford.  But people need a story.  People need it to be one way or the other.  People need to feel morally superior to others, even if they are just as bad themselves.

Fact is, Tiger, Mark Sanford and many others are polyamory-minded, even if they are not practicing the basic tenant of polyamory: open and honest knowledge and consent of the structure of the relationship with everyone involved.

I know, I know.  I can hear it now: “What?! Lucius are you out of your mind? Honesty and communication within a relationship?! That will never work!”

For most relationships it doesn’t, and that’s why we have situations like Tiger’s and many more like him.

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