Jesus, I’ve had so much to say recently, and no time to put it on paper.
My daughters have always been frustrated with me regarding how I am about the guys they date. They say I’m too hard on them and “don’t give them a chance”. And granted, I am hard on them and they do have to prove themselves to me. But, I don’t think they realize, and no amount of talking to them convinces them of this, that they are at an exponentially higher risk of assault, both physical and sexual, as well as STI’s than their male counterparts. Now that’s not saying that I don’t eventually accept who they’re dating or decide to marry, but I am wary of their choices until my fears are proven false. And this is why.
In a survey of 8,000 women and men in the U.S. by the National Violence Against Women (NVAW) on the extent, nature and consequences of intimate partner violence in 2000 that was co-sponsored by the National Institute of Justice and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), it was revealed that 30.4% of women who were married to or cohabiting with a man in an intimate partner situation had been raped, physically assaulted, and/or stalked by their partner or former partner.
That’s right, 1 in 3. Go to work tomorrow and see how many women you work with and know that 1 in every 3 of them has been raped, beat or stalked by a man they were in an intimate relationship with, either past or current. If you have three daughters or 3 nieces, know that at least one of them will be raped, beat or stalked by their husband or boyfriend sometime in their life.
A 2011 report from the CDC shows that in the U.S. homicide is the fourth leading cause of death of women ages 15 to 45, behind cancer, unintentional accidents and suicide. Intimate partner violence is the leading cause of homicide amongst women.
Your daughters and nieces have a greater chance of dying at the hands of an intimate partner than they do from strokes, diabetes, pregnancy complications, HIV, influenza and pneumonia.
Let that sink in.
When I was in my 30’s and in the swinger lifestyle, 40 seemed to be the kiss of death. It seemed everyone’s profile said something to the effect of: Nobody over 40 should contact us.
However, I’ve had more sex, and more relationships with women in their 20’s since I turned 40 than I did when I was in my 20’s.
Don’t believe everything you read on the Internet.
The good, and informative I might add, folks over at Submissive Guide are having their Kinky Wonderland Contest where they have partnered with JT’s Stockroom to give away some wonderfully kinky prizes this Holiday Season. Head-on over to their website at http://www.submissiveguide.com/2013/12/enter-for-your-chance-to-win-kinky-wonderland-contest/ and get your name entered to win some naughty stuff that your parents won’t give you. Well, most of your parents won’t. Some might.
I really enjoyed this TED Talk about sex needing a new metaphor, something besides baseball, because as Al Vernacchio points-out, the baseball metaphor is heterosexist, competitive, goal-directed and rule-bound. So he suggests something else, like pizza. Why pizza? Because it’s something everyone can enjoy, and pizza comes in millions of combinations and flavors and everyone who eats it is satisfied and there is no winner and loser when sharing a pizza. Watch the talk and enjoy. Yum.